TURN ON A GIRLWalk and talk with purpose If you want to turn on a girl. Embody confidence. Men with low self esteem and a low self-prescribed social value are rarely able to turn on a girl. However, those men who believe in themselves and their own personal power and inner strength tend to do very well. CAUTION: There is a fine line between being overly confident and being arrogant. Everyone likes to around those with a healthy self-esteem but few like to be around people who are arrogant, so be careful not to cross the line. DOING THIS WILL NOT TURN ON A GIRL Confident people walk and talk with purpose. Learn to move with a definite direction and speak from deep within your chest. If you have self-esteem issues, it will be difficult for women to feel deep gut level physical attraction. It’s very important that you use positive self talk and self deprecating humor carefully. Remember, thoughts lead to emotions, emotions lead to behaviors. If you have negative thoughts about yourself, this will cause you to feel inadequate when you are with a woman, which will then lead you to behave in a way that is not attractive to her. If you have issues with self-esteem it is critical that you learn to talk to yourself in a positive way. It may sound a little cheesy, but if you find your mind getting negative, replace your negative talk with positive self-talk. Repetitive thoughts patterns, especially negative ones are the root cause of many major psychological problems. If you have a self-defeating thought, this will lead to you feeling defeated, which will be communicated in your body language and actions. The end result will be people responding to you negatively, closing the loop, which will just reinforce the initial self-defeating thoughts. The cycle could repeat itself over and over again. The only way out of this cycle is to grab the negative thought, cast it away, and replace it with positive self talk. This will become natural over time but you must be diligent about it. I don’t mean to get self-help on you, but I can’t tell you how often I meet great guys who get stuck in a rut and don’t know how to get out. FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. Repeat healthy and positive affirmations. Do it often. That’s the formula. Don’t make it complicated. DOING THIS = TURN ON A GIRL A great way to demonstrate that you are a confident guy is by not answering a woman’s questions directly, especially any questions that pertain to status. One of my favorite replies to the classic status questions,” What do you do?" is to say, "I am very important. In fact I should charge you for standing this close to me." DOING THIS = TURN ON A GIRL Answering in this way is FUN, interesting and it communicates that you get why she is asking you that question. Basically you are calling her out for trying to decipher where you fit in the social order of things. You are also opening the door for a fun and playful conversation that is much more likely to result in her feeling attracted to you than if you just answer directly. Most guys make the mistake of letting a girl know exactly what he does for a living, what hours he works, whether or not he likes his job, blah, blah. Where is the mystery in that? Avoid telling her the ins and outs of what you do for a living right off the bat. Remember that not being able to figure you out right away is sexy. Another misconception among men is that in order to feel real confidence they need to be making a lot of money. While it is true that there are some women out there who only go for rich men, the VAST majority of women you meet don’t care about how much money you make. They do, however, care that you have your life together.
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